Among many other emotions, anger is one emotion too. It’s Completely natural, common and healthy. But if anger is out of control, it becomes an issue. It is not just bad for our personality that we are all the time arguing, fighting and irritated by everything.
It Is also a problem for our mental, emotional and physical health. We all should know how to control and manage our anger. Anger management issue is real and dangerous. You have to control your anger before it controls you.
So here is a list of tips that you can practice to manage,control and slowly get rid of your anger management issue. The tips are:
- Think twice before you speak
- Sweat away your anger
- Take time out for ‘timeout’
- ‘I’ comes before ‘U’
- Do not resent
- Let your anger out
- Relaxation skills
- Know when you need help
THINK TWICE BEFORE YOU SPEAK
We always end up apologizing for making up excuses that we did not mean to say or do that, we were in anger. But That is not an excuse. You already made the damage and hurt someone’s feelings.
So instead of regretting later what you did not even want to say in the first place, try to calm down and think twice before speaking especially when you’re angry.
SWEAT AWAY YOUR ANGER
Anger also builds up because of the tensed muscles. So physical activities like exercises, sports can also help you to calm your anger management issues. And during an argument or fight, try to go for a brisk walk.
TAKE TIME OUT FOR ‘TIMEOUT’
Remember those timeouts ourparents made us take in childhood? Well believe it or not, they were effective.And they are not just for kids.
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A few minutes of silence have the capability to bring you peace. Especially when you know you are going to have a stressful day, take a timeout as precaution ahead of time.
‘I’ COMES BEFORE ‘U’
Instead of all the blaming and criticizing, use the strategy of ‘I’ comes before ‘U’. This means start your statements with ‘I’ and not ‘U’ (you).
For example: ‘I am upset that you did not inform me about your plan’ instead of ‘you always do whatever you want’.
DO NOT RESENT
Having anger during a fight or an argument is explainable. But keeping anger inside of you is extremely dangerous for your mental health.
So do not hold a grudge against anyone as it is only bad for you. Learn to forgive and maintain a strong,healthy relationship with everybody
LET YOUR ANGER OUT
As we discussed above, keeping your anger inside of you is dangerous so let it all out. Express your anger. You just need a healthy channel to let it all out.Instead of arguing and fighting, have a mature conversation and talk through it.
This way is not just good for managing your anger at the moment but will also provide you help in future too. Because through dialogue, you can actually solve the issue so it would not become a problem later. Hence, less anger management issue.
Counting to 10, taking deep breaths, repeating a mantra like ‘it is okay, relax’, mentally escaping and imagining a relaxing scene etc.
There are many ways to relax your mind and body in the heat of the moment. Practice these relaxation skills when you are in the state of anger and your temper flashes.
KNOW WHEN YOU NEED HELP
These tricks are very effective once you try them a few times. But if you still think you need to become more at peace, always know that help is always there to be sought.
Ask your family and friends to help you or even better consult with a professional. There is no shame in it.